A parent recently asked me to evaluate his son and after sharing my thoughts and explaining what I saw as his weaknesses, the dad asked (like most parents would and should), if that hurt his recruiting, should we not share his video at this point?
(My answer can also be applied to players who are young and maybe not as physical, there is a lot that can be learned from this so please continue reading and as always if you have any questions or comments please share with me.)
It's a great topic for debate but having been involved in this for so many years I firmly believe that you do not look at anything like that as hurting your child, remember the idea is to find the "best fit" and not force a fit (square peg in a round hole). Your child is who he is so by forcing him into a situation that just isn't real, doesn't do anyone any good, eventually the real player will appear. Which, if you've over shot your ability (whether academic or athletic), your child will most definitely be exposed. That is not setting your child up to succeed so ALWAYS understand where your child's ability level lies, surround your child with good people who are interested in your sons success and happiness and remember - (THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT) - it's all about the right fit - it should never be about the "highest" level .. ever! Sometimes the highest level is the right fit ... just be real